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Discovering Grace Through Suffering




“Pain and suffering have come into your life, but remember pain, sorrow, suffering are but the kiss of Jesus…a sign that you have come so close to Him that He can kiss you.” 
“The way you heal the world is to start with your own family.”
Quotes of St. Teresa of Calcutta

Most of us remember how tirelessly Mother Teresa worked with the dying.  She was known as a “living saint”.  How do we handle the stress and suffering in our own lives?

For the past several years, our family has been caring for our mother who has been suffering from Alzheimer’s disease.  Each of us watched her suffer with the disease and suffered individually both from a sense of helplessness and from grief and sorrow.  My sister and I cared for her day after day never knowing when the journey would come to an end.  Other brothers and sisters helped when they could, knowing visits made it difficult for her to sleep.  The last months were filled with stress and anxiety even with the help of hospice.

Questions about suffering and death were impossible to avoid.  How could a loving and merciful God permit such suffering?  If there is a God where was He?

I have been reflecting on the gifts given us by the Holy Spirit.  I like to picture them as gifts under the Christmas tree.  Christmas, after all, is when Jesus was born.  God coming to earth to bring mankind salvation.  He opened the door to heaven for us.  The gifts of Faith, Hope and Love are in the Christmas presents under the tree. 

Faith is the belief in something we cannot see.  Similar to believing that the light switch will produce light even though we cannot see electricity.

Hope is what we receive when we have faith in everlasting life.  We believe our spirit lives on in communion with the saints in heaven.  What a party!

Love is the greatest commandment.  Scripture tells us that without love we are a noisy gong.  Jesus instructed us to love God with our whole hearts and love our neighbor as ourselves.

But what IS love?  Love is caring more for the other person than yourself.  When two people “fall in love”, they will do anything for each other.  Over time, the only way we know if it is true love is if each person is willing to suffer for the other.  Hopefully, both parties take turns and  the person suffering is supported by the other.   Suffering defines love!

If there was no suffering in the world, how would we prove our love?  Sacrificial love is easy to understand when we think of our children.  We would prefer to suffer ourselves than let them suffer.  But holding them too tightly and overprotecting them also causes suffering.  We must be willing to suffer from empty nest syndrome if our children are ever to be healthy adults.  Marriages are supposed to be loving relationships, but too often either one or both person is unwilling to suffer and sacrifice to make it work.  Suffering proves love!

Another gift found under the Christmas tree is the gift of grace.  Grace is also known as the awareness of the presence (gift) of God in our lives.   If we have the gift of grace we can see God in the face of the suffering.  We can see God in creation.  We can see God’s actions in everything around us.

Now that my mother is enjoying life again in heaven, I find myself asking more questions.  How did we do it?  How did our family bear with one another patiently over the past difficult years?  How did we forgive each other when our patience failed us?

We did it with the grace of God.  He was walking with each of us on this journey.

God is love.  Love is defined by suffering.

 

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: St. Apollonia, Feast Day February 12




The Feast day of St. Apollonia is celebrated on February 12. She is the patron saint of dentists and invoked by those suffering from toothaches.

St. Apollonia died a martyr in the year 149.  She suffered under the persecutions of Emperor Philip.  She was tortured in the attempt to make her renounce her faith.  When she refused, her persecutor hit her in the face, knocking out all of her teeth.

When the torture continued, she was threatened with death by fire.  She willingly jumped into the flames to her death.

“The prize with which God rewards our self-abandonment is Himself.”

Quote of St. Teresa of Calcutta, Feast Day September 5

 

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What is Intercessory prayer? Quotes from the saints about Mary.

                                                                                                     

Why do Catholics ask Mary to pray for them? What do the saints say about Mary?   The early church had great reverence for Mary, the Mother of God. Because she gave birth to Jesus, Mary was full of Grace…literally! Just as Adam and Eve were created without sin, it is believed that Mary also was created without the stain of original sin. Mary’s Heart was Immaculate….free from any stain of sin, both original sin and personal sin. Mary was not God, however. All worship goes to the Trinity…the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Mary was an instrument used by God to bring Jesus into the world. We know Jesus honored and loved His Mother. Are we not called to imitate Jesus? There are many prayers and quotes by the saints for us to learn about the beliefs of the early Church.

Intercessory prayer is a specific type of prayer. When we pray for someone in need, we intercede for them. We petition God to come to someone else’s aid. We can also petition Mary and the saints to pray for us or a special need.

When the saints pray together for something it is a very powerful prayer. When a family prays together the prayer becomes stronger. The power of prayer also grows when we pray together with family, friends, and the communion of saints.

Our Lady of Lourdes

PRAYER TO OUR LADY OF LOURDES

Oh ever immaculate Virgin, Mother of Mercy, Health of the Sick, Refuge of Sinners, Comforter of the Afflicted, you know my wants, my troubles, my sufferings. Look upon me with mercy. When you appeared in the grotto of Lourdes, you made it a privileged sanctuary where you dispense your favors, and where many sufferers have obtained the cure of their infirmities, both spiritual and corporal I come, therefore, with unbounded confidence to implore your maternal intercession. My loving Mother, obtain my request. I will try to imitate your virtues so that I may one day share your company and bless you in eternity. Amen.

Purer than heaven’s purest angels, brighter than its brightest seraph; Mary, after her Creator, God, made her and gave her all, the most perfect of beings, the masterpiece of Infinite Wisdom, Almighty Power and Eternal Love. To such a being we cannot reasonably suppose that a perfection was denied her which had been already gratuitously bestowed on inferior creatures; on the angelic spirits

St. John N. Neumann

Virgin Mary, Mother of God
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The Most Holy Virgin places herself between her Son and us. The greater sinners we are, the more tenderness and compassion does she feel for us. The child that has cost its mother the most tears is the dearest to her heart.

St. John Vianney

Our Lady of Sorrows
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Our Lady is rest for those who work, consolation for those who weep medicine for the sick, a harbour for those assailed by tempests, pardon for sinners, sweet relief for the sad, succour for those who implore.

St. John Damascene    

Mary, Queen of Saints

Hail, Holy Queen, Mother of mercy, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve.
To thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears.


Turn, then, most gracious advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us, and after this, our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus.


O clement, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary.
Pray for us, O holy Mother of God.
That we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ

Bl. Herman (likely author) English translation

Immaculate Heart of Mary

Why should we be astonished if the God who could work marvels in the scripture and through His saints should choose to reveal Himself even more marvelous by means of His Mother?

St. Bernard (Feast Day August 20)  

Most Holy Virgin Mary…Sanctuary of the Holy Spirit, Lily of purity, Rose of patience, Paradise of delight, Mirror of chastity, Model if innocence…intercede for this poor banished pilgrim.

St. Peter of Alcantara (Feast day (October 19)

Our Lady of the Streets

Memorare

Remember, O most loving virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession was left unaided. Inspired by this confidence, we fly unto you, O virgin of virgins, our mother. To you we come, before you we stand, sinful and sorrowful, O mother of the Word incarnate, despise not our petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me.

St. Bernard of Clairvaux

Mary, Mother of God

 

The Virgin Mother’s heart remained perpetually inflamed with the holy love which she received of her Son.

St. Francis de Sales (Feast Day January 24)  

Blessed is he for whom Mary prays.

St. Peter Julian Eymard (Feast Day August 1)

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: St. John Bosco, Feast Day January 31




The Feast Day of St. John Bosco is celebrated on Jan. 31.   St. John Bosco is the patron saint of boys and young people.

St. John Bosco was born in Piedmont, Italy in 1815. His father died when he was two years old. God spoke to John in his dreams. The first of his many dreams occurred when he was only nine years old. John found himself fighting a large crowd of rowdy boys. They were cursing and acting badly. They refused to listen to him. Suddenly a man appeared saying;

“Not with blows will you help these boys, but with goodness and kindness.”

Who are you?” John asked.

Then a woman appeared to him saying,

“Watch what I do, John.”

As John watched, the boys changed to a pack of growling wild animals. Then the woman put out her hand. The wild animals changed again…into a flock of lambs.

“But what does it mean? I’m just a farm boy. What am I to do?”

John cried out, and he burst into tears. The Lady answered him,

“This is the field of your work. Be humble, steadfast and strong!”

John knew he must become a priest. He attended a boarding school and then began studying for the priesthood. John was ordained on June 5, 1841. He said his first Mass at the church of St. Francis of Assisi. He said that he had prayed for the gift of effective speech and believed his prayer was answered.

The ministry of Don Bosco began with a group of teenage boys. (Don is the title given to priests in Italy.) He began by teaching them catechism after Sunday Mass. It began as a youth group which would spend each Sunday together beginning with Mass, catechism and a day in the country. They would end the day with another talk before returning to their homes. The group grew quickly. Most of the boys were quite poor. In 1846 Don Bosco bought an old shed in Turin. It became a chapel they named The Oratory of St. Francis de Sales, a saint admired by Don Bosco.

An orphanage and a trade school were also soon established by Don Bosco. More and more priests were beginning to help John in his ministry. Together they founded the Society of St. Francis de Sales in 1859 also known as the Salesians of Don Bosco.

Don Bosco died on Jan. 31, 1888 at the age of 73. Thousands attended his funeral and there was a demand for his canonization. He was canonized by Pope Pius XI.

What tenderness there is in Jesus love for man!
In His infinite goodness,
He established, with each of us,
bonds of sublime love!
His love has no limits.

Quote of St. John Bosco

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: St. Hyacintha, Feast Day January 30




St. Hyacintha of Manincotti

The Feast Day of St. Hyacintha is celebrated on January 30.

St. Hyacintha was born near Viterbo, Italy in 1588. Her father was a count and her mother was from a Roman family. Her birth name was Clarice.

Clarice entered the convent of the Tertiearies at Virterbo as a Third Order Franciscan Sister. However, she did not in the beginning embrace the love of poverty which St. Francis called for. She supplied herself with material goods to live life in comfort. When she became seriously ill a confessor brought her Holy Communion to her room. When he noticed her material possessions he advised her to live more humbly. Hyacintha rid herself of her fine clothes and special foods. She began to live a simple life which included penances. She developed a special devotion to the sufferings of Christ and inspired others by her acts of penance. She had a special devotion for Mary, the Mother of Mercy.

St. Hyacintha died at the age of 55 in 1640. Many miracles were reported at her grave site. She was canonize by Pope Pius VII in 1807.

Lord, give me the grace

to work to bring about

the things I pray for.

Quote of St. Thomas More; Feast Day June 22

 

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: Bl. Archangela Girlani, Feast Day January 29




Bl. Archangela Girlani

The Feast Day of Bl. Archangela Girlani is celebrated on Jan. 29.

Bl. Archangela Girlani was born to a noble family at Trino, Italy in 1460. She was educated by the Benedictines. From early childhood she wished to become a Benedictine Nun. However, on the way to the convent her horse refused to cooperate and take her there. She took this as a sign and decided to follow in the footsteps of her two sisters Maria and Frances (Scholastica) who had joined the Carmelite Order. At the age of 17, she enter the Carmelite Order, taking the name Archangela. In time she became the prioress, a position she held until her death.

Bl. Archangela was known for her mystical visions. While meditating on the mysteries of the faith, she experienced ecstasies and miracles. She had a special devotion to the Holy Trinity.

After three years as prioress, she became seriously ill.   Bl. Archangela died peacefuly after saying the following words;

“Jesus my Love”.

My God,

may everything

I do and suffer today

be for love of You.

Quote of St. Bernadette; Feast day April 16

 

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: St. Angela Merici, Feast Day January 27




St. Angela Merici

The Feast Day of St. Angela Merici is celebrated on Jan. 27.  St. Angela is the patron saint of the sick and disabled.

St. Angela Merici was born in 1474. She lived primarily in Brescia, Italy. Her parents read to Angela when she was young, teaching her about the saints and martyrs. She lost both of her parents when she was about ten years old. She also lost her sister to death. They were quite close and her grief was great. It was made worse because her sister had not received the Last Sacraments. In spite of being reassured by the parish priest concerning her sister’s salvation, Angela prayed to Jesus for consolation. She experience a vision of a company of Angels surrounding her sister, escorting her to Heaven. She no longer had any doubt about her sisters entry into heaven.

On a trip to the Holy Land St. Angela became blind. She refused to end the pilgrimage, continuing to visit the shrines and praying with enthusiasm. On the return trip her vision was restored while praying before a crucifix.

St. Angela became a member of the Third Order of St. Francis and served the marginalized, the poor, the orphans and the sick. She had a special desire to educate the poor.

At the age of 57, Angela organized twelve girls to help her teach catechism. The group grew to 28 and they formed The Company of Saint Ursula. It was named after St. Ursula who was an early martyr and patron of education and the youth. They later became known as the Ursulines. It was the first group of women religious to work outside the cloister and the first teaching order of women. The order impressed many people with its work including Pope Clement. He requested that she take charge of a religious order of nursing sisters, however she turned him down. She knew her calling was to teach the poor and uneducated.

After her death on Jan. 27, 1540, the Company of Saint Ursula spread rapidly.

Remember, the Devil doesn’t sleep,

but seeks our ruin in a thousand ways.

Quote of St. Angela Merici
St. Angela Merici

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: Conversion of St. Paul, Feast Day January 25




Conversion of St. Paul
Michelangelo

 

The Feast day of the Conversion of St. Paul is celebrated on Jan. 25.  St. Paul is the patron saint of writers, publishers, musicians and evangelists. St. Paul was not one of the original twelve Apostles. He persecuted the early Christians. He was present at the stoning of St. Stephen, the first martyr. On the road to Damascus, he was struck by a heavenly light. He heard a voice saying to him,

“Saul, Saul, why do you persecute me?” He asked “Who are you Lord?” The reply came, “I am Jesus whom you are persecuting. But get up and enter the city and you will be told what you are to do.” (Acts 9:4-6)

After three days of blindness, scales fell off his eyes. He joined the Apostles becoming known as the Apostle to the Gentiles. St. Paul convinced St. Peter that the Gentiles did not need to become Jewish to follow Jesus. Because of this decision they decided not to require Gentiles to be circumcised to become Christian.

St. Paul wrote many of the books in the New Testament. He was instrumental in the Council of Jerusalem His missionary journeys took him many places: Asia Minor, Macedonia, Jerusalem and Europe.

St. Paul spoke about the mystical body of the church. He taught that the church is the living Body of Christ. It is one body, made up of many parts. It’s members are given different gifts to serve the Lord.

St. Paul suffered many hardships including three shipwrecks.  St. Paul died a martyr. He was beheaded in Rome in the year 65.

St. Paul is the patron saint of writers, publishers, musicians and evangelists.

The Feast of Sts. Peter and St. Paul is celebrated June 29.

O my Jesus,

what a soul

inflamed in Your love

accomplishes!

Quote of St. Teresa of Avila; Feast Day October 15

Conversion of St. Paul

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: St. Brigid of Ireland, Feast Day Feb. 1

The Feast Day of St. Brigid of Ireland will be celebrated on Feb. 1. She was born in 453 near Dumdalk, Loathe, Ireland. Her father had been kidnapped by Irish pirates (as St. Patrick was) and he was a slave to a druid. Brigid is believed to have been baptized by St. Patrick.  She is the patron saint of babies; blacksmiths; boatmen; cattle; chicken farmers; children whose parents are not married; children whose mothers are mistreated by the children’s fathers; dairymaids; dairy workers; fugitives; infants; Ireland; midwives; milk maids; nuns; poets; poor; poultry farmers; printing presses; sailors; scholars; travelers; and water-men.

From a very early age, Brigid showed a desire to pursue a religious life. She was known for her generosity and concern for the poor. Brigid’s mother was in charge of the Master’s dairy. Brigid tended to give the produce away to the poor. The dairy prospered in spite of her generosity. When she gave produce to the poor it tended to multiply! When she gave water to a thirsty stranger, the water turned to milk!

These are only two of the legendary miracles attributed to Brigid. Most of the miracles dealt with healing and domestic tasks. She was known for her holiness and generosity. The following quote by Brigid explains her spirituality:

“Christ dwells in every creature.”

Brigid refused to marry, choosing instead to serve Jesus only. Brigid founded a double monastery at Kildare. She was the Abbess of the convent which was the first convent in Ireland. She also founded a school of art at Kildare. The illuminated manuscripts became famous, especially the Book of Kildare.

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In art, Brigid is often depicted holding a reed cross made from the palm branches blessed on Palm Sunday. The cross is known as St. Brigid’s Cross. It is a symbol of peace. She often holds a lamp, which is called a lamp of learning and wisdom.

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The Mantle of St. Brigid is a small rectangular piece of cloth kept in a reliquary, which is made of wood with a glass covered opening for viewing. It is brought out for viewing on her feast day of Feb. 1. The mantle is dark crimson and is believed to represent the protection provided by the prayers of St. Brigid.

Devotion to Brigid can be found in the eighth century. Her relics are in the Church of Pierre de Vare in Stocking.

St. Brigid died of natural causes at the approximate age of 70 in Kildare, Ireland in 523.

The passion of Jesus
is a sea of sorrows,
but it is also an ocean of love.
Ask the Lord to teach you to fish in this ocean.
Dive into its depths.
No matter how deep you go,
you will never reach the bottom.

Quote of St. Paul of the Cross

 

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: St. Marianne Cope, Feast Day January 23




St. Marainne Cope        Patron Saint of Outcasts

The Feast Day of St. Marianne Cope is celebrated on Jan. 23. St. Marianne Cope was the first Franciscan woman from North America to become a saint.  St. Marianne Cope is the patron saint of outcasts.

The birth name of St. Marianne Cope was Barbara Koob (now officially Cope) She was born on Jan 23, 1838 in SE Hessen, West Germany. She was one of ten children. Her father was a farmer. The family moved to the United States one year after her birth.

Her vocation to the religious life was delayed by the necessity to support her family when her father became ill. At the age of 25, Barbara entered the Sisters of St. Francis in Syracuse, New York. She received her religious habit and the name of Sister Marianne. She served as a teacher and principal in several elementary schools in New York. She also helped establish two of the first hospitals in central NY. In 1870, she became a nurse administrator at St. Joseph’s in Syracuse, NY.

In 1882, a priest requested help managing hospitals and schools in Hawaii; primarily working with leprosy patients. She responded to his letter with the following words.

“I am hungry for the work and I wish with all my heart to be one of the chosen ones, whose privilege it will be to sacrifice themselves for the salvation of the souls of the poor Islanders…I am not afraid of any disease, hence, It would be my greatest delight to minister to the abandoned lepers.”

Along with six other sisters of St. Francis, she arrived in Honolulu in Nov. 1833. Mother Marianne was the supervisor as they managed Kakóako Branch Hospital on Oahu which treated 200 leprosy patients. They began by thoroughly cleaning the hospital. They also opened a home for the healthy daughters of the patients who were ill. Mother Marianne met Fr. Damien (now St. Damien…the Apostle to Lepers) in January 1884 while he was still healthy.

In 1887 the new government in charge of Hawaii closed the Hospital. In 1888, she went to Kalaupapa several months before the death of St. Damien. She reassured him she would provide care for the patients at the Boy’s Home at Kalawao on the Island of Molokai. Three Sisters ran the Bishop Home for boys and girls.

Mother Marianne died in Hawaii of natural cause on August 9, 1918 and is buried on the grounds of Bishop Home. The Saint Marianne Cope Shrine and Museum was built to honor her memory.

Mother Marianne was beatified on May 14, 2005 by Pope Benedict XVI. St. Marianne Cope was canonized on Oct 21, 2012 by Pope Benedict XVI.

“I am not thinking of reward.  I am working for God and do so cheerfully.“

Quote of St. Marianne Cope

 

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: St. Vincent Palliotti, Feast Day January 22




St. Vincent Palliotti

The Feast Day of St. Vincent Palliotti is celebrated on Jan. 22. St. Vincent Palliotti was born in Rome in 1795.

St. Vincent Palliotti  had a devotion to the Bl. Virgin from an early age. He also had a devotion to St. Francis of Assisi. He became a Franciscan Tertiary in 1816. After finishing his studies he was ordained a Franciscan priest in 1818. He was known for his zeal and was tireless in his work for the needy. He founded guilds for workers, agriculture schools, loan associations, orphanages, and homes for girls. This led to the foundation of the Society of Catholic Action. He founded the Pallottine Fathers and Pallottine Missionary sisters.

St. Vincent Palliotti died at the age of 55 in 1850 after coming down with a severe cold.

1906 the body of St. Vincent was exhumed and found to be incorrupt.

“Humility is nothing but truth,

while pride is nothing but lying.”

Quote of St. Vincent de Paul; Feast day Sept. 27

 

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Prayers, Quips and Quotes: St. Agnes of Rome, Feast Day January 21




St. Agnes of Rome

The Feast Day of St. Agnes of Rome will be celebrated on January 21. Agnes was born in 291 and died a martyr in 304 at the age of 13.

St. Agnes was born to a noble family in Rome. She was very beautiful, however at an early age she promised her life to God, refusing marriage. The governor’s son, Procop, offered to marry her, but she refused, saying;

“I am already promised to the Lord of the Universe. He is more splendid than the sun and the stars, and He has said He will never leave me!”

Angered by rejection, Procop sentenced her to death.

Agnes was not afraid of death, but was joyful at the thought of meeting our Lord, saying;

“He chose me first and He shall have me.”

She then prayed and bowed, her head to receive the death stroke of the sword.

The daughter of Constantine I was said to have been cured of leprosy after praying at Agnes tomb. In art Agnes is shown with a lamb. The lamb is a symbol of innocence and purity. In Latin, Agnes means lamb. The Greek meaning is chaste, pure, and sacred. On the feast day of St. Agnes two lambs are brought to the Trappist Abbey in Rome. On Holy Thursday they are shorn and their wool is used to weave the palliums which the pope gives to new archbishops.    

 

St. Jerome has written the following about St. Agnes. “All nations, especially their Christian communities, praise in word and writing the life of St. Agnes. She triumphed over her tender age as well as over the merciless tyrant. To the crown of spotless innocence she added the glory of martyrdom.”

St. Ambrose gave an early account of Agnes’ death, stressing her steadfastness and virginity.

 

Christ is my Spouse,

He chose me first and His I will be.

He made my soul beautiful

with the jewels of grace and virtue.

I belong to Him

whom the angels serve.

Quote of St. Agnes

 

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